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I remember gaming events 10+ years ago. I would enter the room/bar and imagine myself putting a mask. The mask of someone who's not shy. These folks didn't know me. They didn't know I was shy.

So I pretended that I wasn't. It was an act. But..... it worked. I could practice talking with people in there. (Of course, some beer certainly helped overcome my barriers, but I could do it sober too)

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Let it be clear: none of that is natural to me. I'm an introvert, I was very shy. But I worked on that. When me and my gf at the time broke up, I realized that I neglected my relations with anyone else. That I didn't know how to talk and have a deep conversations with others. That Facebook and Twitter were giving me an _illusion_ of relationships. So I left both. And then I kicked myself in the butt to try to learn how to talk with people.

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I know I can sometime talk a lot, to the point of becoming annoying. Or I cut people. I try to be careful about that, leaving enough air in the room for the other person to digest what I said. Give enough room so they can think about what they want to say.

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Hosting conversation

I don't really like inviting people in my home. (I'm afraid they'll judge my mess or break my stuff. (hey, I'm working on it 😅))

Instead, I like being the host of nice conversations. One to one conversations, where you really get to know the other person. I like make people feel comfortable, especially if they are shy or not used to being treated nicely. Lot of people are afraid they won't have anything to say, so I ask questions! (I'm getting good at it)

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figma — and all other web apps — will leave no trace once their servers are offline, other then broken electron applications and words saying that it was good while it lasted

Vous avez perdu espoir envers la politique au Québec? Vous ne savez pas pour qui voter?

Moi aussi!

Alors je suis allé faire le petit questionnaire de la Boussole Électorale. Ça prend 5 minutes pour répondre à une trentaine de questions et ça nous dit quel parti s'approche le plus de notre opinion.

boussole.radio-canada.ca/quebe

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Hey Fediverse!

The @owncast project could really use some help! 🙏

At the moment the lead dev @gabek is having to handle an awful lot at once. The platform would be much more sustainable if there were more people on the team.

Everyone who wants to help is welcome, but of course there are some specific areas where help is especially welcome:

owncast.online/help/

Please get in touch with @owncast or @gabek if you want to help out!

For those who don't know, OwnCast is a Twitch-style livestreaming and chat service for the Fediverse. You can follow OwnCast accounts from Mastodon etc and you will see a post in your timeline when the account goes live. There's a site about it at owncast.online and a directory of featured streams at directory.owncast.online

Boosts welcome!

#Fediverse #OwnCast #HelpNeeded

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The tombs were vast and older than the kingdom above.

The scholar crouched among the dusty effigies, scroll in one hand, flameless torch in the other, squinting. Even carved into stone, the words were faded.

"The curse is either lifted by boiling drinking water and feeding the hungry, or by boiling vagrants in the name of The Deity."

"Worth trying," said the King.

"Which?"

"The realistic one! Now, where to get a big enough pot..."

#TootFic #MicroFiction #Writing #TerylsTales #Fantasy

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et re-voila ! Présentation vidéo des Métacartes Numérique éthique en moins de 4 min : videos.lescommuns.org/w/tW8QNa (et c'est sur peertube, bien sur !)

Ce qui me relaxe full:
écouter de la musique sans faire autre chose en même temps

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Ce que je ne fais pas assez souvent:
écouter de la musique sans faire autre chose en même temps

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Learning about #ChatControl at #fnf2022 was reminded of the story last month of a man whose google ac was shut down after he'd sent a medical photo of his son's groin to their doctor & an AI had flagged it as CSAM. Even after learning of its mistake Google refused to lift the ban theguardian.com/technology/202.

#ChatControl is draft EU legislation with laudable goal of ending the sharing of CSAM – but has so many negative consequences & risks. You can feedback on it til 12 Sept ec.europa.eu/info/law/better-r

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There's only a few days left to submit your feedback to the EU about the #chatcontrol regulation.
The deadline is the September 12th. Please submit your feedback here, even if it's just a short "just no":
ec.europa.eu/info/law/better-r
(Click the "Give feedback button" and register. You'll be asked for your name, but you can post your feedback without having it published)
#Chatkontrolle #Privacy #MassSurveillance

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Very pleased to share Per Million, a website and protest tool by @gordan and I about the most defining number of our time permillion.live #permillion

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"Le navigateur chrome ressemble à un miroir à deux faces. Vous pensez que vous explorez le web. En réalité, google et d'autres vous explore, extrayant vos expériences sans que vous en ayez conscience et sans votre consentement." extrait de la bande-dessinée Contrachrome contrachrome.com/

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I've greatly expanded the Unofficial Mastodon & Fediverse Guide:

growyourown.services/an-unoffi

Hopefully this guide now answers most questions that new members seem to have on here.

I've repeated some bits of info in different sections, as people may need the same feature in different contexts.

Will work on the Advanced Tips and Admin section next, and then go back through it to try and add more non-Masto stuff.

#Fediverse #Mastodon

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I think this is really sweet & empowering. :)

"Abundance thinking. If the computing capacity feels too limited for anything, you can rethink it from the point of view of abundance (e.g. by taking yourself fifty years back in time): tens of kilobytes of memory, thousands of operations per second – think about all the possibilities!"
-- permacomputing.net/Principles/

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The film concludes with a statement on how the five largest arms producers in the world are also the five permanent members of the United Nations Security Council.

J'avais pas réalisé avant maintenant, mais ma psy que je pensait qu'elle ne m'aidait pas vraiment parce qu'elle parlait peu, en fait elle m'aidait sans que je m'en rende compte: Elle m'encourageait à parler de moi, à parler de mes peurs, à parler de mes relations, ce que j'avais énormément de difficulté à faire à l'époque. Pis à force de parler de ça, c'est devenu plus facile.

C'est comme un entraineur au gym qui encourage à courir pis qu'éventuellement ça devient facile.

I was listening to this album, Chipped, as I was writing a (very) long message to someone dear to me where I exposed some fears and vulnerabilities that I have. It was a bit difficult because of course I'm afraid they could judge me (even if I _know_ they won't!) The music was the perfect mood for that.

Chipped
chrisroth.bandcamp.com/album/c

Follow its creator on Masto! @TQ !

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